Last week, I started a list of suggestions for how we could live and operate our businesses from a place of greater happiness. This is a list of what could make us happier people and better business leaders but it could also be interpreted as a list of the things that make us miserable or our lives and businesses harder than it has to be… if we don’t pay attention to them. This list won’t be a completely comprehensive one, how could it be? I’m positive that each one of you could add a suggestion or two. But, it will be the top ten choices from my own study, both anecdotal and researched. Here’s our second installment…
Suggestion #1: Assume the best.
Suggestion #2: Roll with it.
We all believe that what we are seeing and experiencing in our work and life is THE reality. We write our own movie all the time and we’ve been at the center of it with every experience. We know what we want to happen. The problem is everyone else is living inside their own movie too… and it’s not the same as ours. According to our script, others forget their lines, don’t love us properly or at all, don’t give us the raise or promotion we deserve, and sometimes leave us at the absolute worst time… and our movie is ruined.
Don’t hold too tight to your pre-written script for business or life. I tell speakers that I coach all the time that of course we have to prepare and practice but on the day of their performance, the very best speakers let go, connect with what this audience is going to give them and embrace whatever is bound to show up in the room. It rarely ever goes exactly as we’d planned. The best speakers let go of their script and step fully into the moment wide open and agile… accepting fully “what is.”
We have to constantly be rewriting our script or even better, lose it altogether. Let someone else star in it once in a while. Welcome in new characters. Embrace plot twists. Laugh at set and costume malfunctions. And notice how much more fluid your life and business becomes when you don’t hold too tight to the “way it’s supposed to go or be” and instead embrace “what is.”
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ~~Ann Landers