Music Monday: Your Own Feature

This week we are recycling a favorite MMS  from a few years ago. Our new subscribers will enjoy Katherine’s story and the lessons she took from the experience. And to all of our MMS readers who have been loyal subscribers from the beginning… you’ll remember why we love seeing the world of business and life through the eyes of The Lioness.

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Hollywood and glossy magazines create a largely false and unattainable reality of a fulfilling life, true love, and real health and pander to the masses who, if they are not careful, buy it hook, line, and sinker. Last week, our talented friend, Lee Koch, released his first music video for the song Our Feature off his newest album, Whole Heart. In it he and his sweet wife, Nicole, remind us of the value of writing our own script for how the story of our lives should go.

Sonora Pass 2We tell stories all the time defining who we are and what our lives are made of… to ourselves and to others. And every time we tell those stories, we create and recreate, cement and re-cement, the story of our lives.

Take, for example, a recent conversation with a friend. When I described a stunning drive that Tom and I had taken through the Sonora Pass over the Sierras last summer, she told us about an experience she had 40 years earlier driving through a mountain pass which had frightened her. Since then, this woman who loved the mountains, nature, hiking, and fishing, would drive many miles and even hours to avoid traveling on a mountain pass. She told the story almost proudly, very defensively, and completely certain of her inability to ever discover any other conclusion.

When I coach speakers, trainers, and other professionals, they often start out by telling me things like,

“I’ve never been a good speaker.”
“I was raised in the country. My grammar has always been bad.”
“I’m not a good storyteller.”
“I’ve always been shy. I’ve never been able to sell.”
“The people I teach won’t enjoy any training games.”
“I don’t have a college degree so my options are limited.”

And on, and on, and on.

tell them your storyOften, if they want my coaching to move them forward in order to master a particular skill or accomplish a goal, I ask them to seriously consider changing their story. My best advice to them, you, and as a reminder to myself is to be ever-vigilant of the stories we tell and re-tell which create our truth and our reality and to notice how these stories that we tell define us.

Consider these new versions:

“I once had a really frightening experience driving on a mountain pass but that was 40 years ago and, because I love the mountains and the drive you just told me about sounds beautiful, I might just try it again in the future. You never know. I might have a much different experience now.”

“I’ve never been a good storyteller but I so appreciate good stories and I’m positive there must be some ways to learn to tell them well. I’m looking forward to learning more about that and getting better at it.”

We can have it any way we want. By crafting and telling a different story, we can often accelerate our journey toward what we really want and write the script for our own feature film of our lives.

PS: If you enjoy Lee’s music, you can listen and purchase it here: www.LeeKochMusic.com

Our Feature Photo

Lee Koch: “Our Feature”
Whole Heart 2013

“Let’s not borrow from the films, we’ve got a sweet love of our own
We don’t need any ideas to teach us how to show it
Let’s not borrow from the films, we’ve got a feature of our own
But we won’t make the big screens cause we’re the only ones who know it
Darling I pray that we grow old enough to get our fill of this love
Or maybe it’s too much for just one lifetime
People may say that it will settle down, the fire burns out slowly
But they’ve given up and feel that we must too… but that’s not true
There’s too much to be discovered for us to act just how we’re told
Let’s not fall into the fold, we could perform a great new role
We’ll play off of one another as if the audience were full
Darling I pray that we grow old enough to get our fill of this love
Or maybe it’s too much for just one lifetime
People may say that it will settle down, the fire burns out slowly
But they’ve given up and feel that we must too
So, darling I pray that we grow old enough to get our fill of this love
Or maybe it’s too much, so we should let it overflow… overflow
Let it overflow
Let’s not borrow from the films, we’ve got a sweet love of our own
We don’t need any ideas to teach us how to show it”

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“We can’t know for sure how this journey will unfold
So we show up at these places with contentment on our faces
We can hope for the best, but I’m sure we will be tested
There’s no promise of success, so remember that we’re blessed just as we are.”

~ Lee Koch
Lyrics from the song, “Journey to Unfold”

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